My Experience Watching “Frozen” with 8th Grade Boys and Girls

I wrote this post a few years ago. The 8th grade students I reference are now high school upperclassmen, but the article’s main idea is timeless.
This past summer the 8th grade girls in my ministry could not understand how I had not yet seen the movie Frozen. One girl decided it was time for me to see it so she got permission from her dad to host a Frozen viewing party at her house.

Photo courtesy of Dollar Photo Club/Pavel Losevsky

It turned out to be a mini-youth group event. The girl invited a few 8th grade boys and girls, a female leader, and myself, in addition to her parents who were obligatory invites.

As we gathered around the TV and the movie started, I tried to quiet down the girls because they were talking a lot. But after about 10 minutes I realized the girls weren’t going to stop talking even though the movie was in full swing. When the girls weren’t exchanging words with each other they were singing along with the songs.

As the movie unfolded, to their dismay the boys realized the movie was a musical. One of them said, “Oh no, this movie is like High School Musical but in the winter!” Meanwhile, the girls were having the time of their lives.

By the end of the show some of the boys were extremely frustrated with the girls. The boys had expected this movie experience to be like their other movie-watching experiences with their guy friends: Quiet, because guys don’t talk when they watch movies. They’re too busy watching the movie to talk.

Apparently girls have a different movie-watching philosophy. They chatted, giggled, and sang throughout the entire movie. I must admit even I was a little annoyed with them by the end. When the credits were rolling one of the boys stated definitively, “Alright, that’s the last time I watch a movie with girls in a long time!” The funny thing is he’ll probably love watching movies with girls in just a few short years.

Whether you are a first-time parent or youth leader of middle school boys or you feel like a seasoned veteran, being around middle school students is a lot easier when you can appreciate the differences between boys and girls. I think it’s cool how God made the genders so different from one another.

Our challenge as parents of middle school boys is to help them understand, embrace, and respect those differences. Otherwise they’ll get frustrated when they watch a Disney musical with girls.

Question: How can we help boys understand, embrace, and respect the differences they are noticing between themselves and girls? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

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